Team Marriage - Weekend Devotion

He doesn't notice her new sweater, says nothing about dinner, and turns the television on as soon as dishes are done. She wants to throw something at him to induce his attention. Instead, she produces his smile as she plops herself on the couch next to him, remembering an important fact.

He is on the same team.

Because she asks him to, he stops at the grocery store on the way home. Often he is in a hurry when she calls and he doesn't write down her list. She knows he's done it again as she unpacks the bag, missing one item. She starts muttering under her breath, getting ready to chastise him for his inability to get a simple job done right until she is forgetting too.

He is on her team.

She disagrees with him and secretly rolls her eyes at his suggestions. Resentment and anger try to poke their heads out. "He doesn't get it," she thinks, "How can he not see?"

If she were pumping up the pastor or encouraging her child's teacher, she would have kind comments. She would speak respectfully, choosing her words deliberately. She scolds herself as she recognizes he deserves the same courtesy, whether they see eye to eye or not, for one simple reason.

He leads her team.

Some days they seem so far apart, he in his world, she inhabiting her own. "Who is this man, this alien, who thinks so differently than me?" she wonders. How can she trust him? There is no choice. He is God's gift to her, the mate specifically provided for her. She recalls God's defining statement, "Two shall be as one."

He IS her team.

An insult to him belittles her as well. When she snubs him, she ignores herself. If she attacks him, she puts a chink in her own armor.

But forgiving him heals her hurt. Prayers for him cover her too. Loving him nurtures her heart.

They won't always think the same, want identical things, or even understand the other, but as husband and wife they are one.

A team.

Tami shares her life with her husband of 22 years, Kevin, a Creative Arts Pastor, and their four children in Beatrice, Nebraska. Tami keeps busy staying on top of her kids and their activities, leading Ladies Bible studies, writing, singing in choir and worship team, playing clarinet and saxophone, lunching with friends and hanging out with her husband. Get to know Tami at her blog, The Next Step.